Monday 21 December 2015

All Alone She Fought!

The rain dew and her tears seemed to wash away all her grief,
yet some are unfathomable which can't be surmised in brief.
Standing alone in an isolated wilderness,
her only pal there was darkness.
Her heart and mind chose different way,
silence had a lot to say.
What shall I tell about her,
who smiled in the time of bother.
Courage and endurance were her jewel,
serenity and absolution filled her well.
Choked voice with tender eyes depicted the desert devoid of rain,
yet patiently suffered all the agony and pain.
Alone she fought her fortitude,
and all alone she fought with sorrows of multitude!!




Monday 7 December 2015

Always Remember Me Like A Sunray!

 

I did everything you wanted me to do,
maybe I cared too much, more than I should do!
I gave up everything just to be with you,
maybe I loved you too much, I should be like you!
 
I became someone else to get your love,
I should too keep my ego above!
So now that you have left me and we're not together,
I should move on and hope it won't so harder!
 
As we became strangers again,
you must be hoping our paths cross again someday.
I'll make sure we won't meet again,
but deep inside I want you to remember me like a sunray!

 

Saturday 5 December 2015

When I Feel Like Running Away From Everything!!

Sometimes I feel like running away from everything and being in peace. It happens to me several times when I want to just escape, away from people or be invisible. I feel irritated, restless, or don’t want to face anyone. Not friends, not parents, not siblings. I just feel pissed off on almost everything. Being in a middle of hundreds of people, with 300 friends on Facebook, even with a few people who loves me, I feel alone, I feel lonely. When at home, I want to go somewhere and leave the feeling of homesick but the thought of going out doesn’t excite me either. I feel abandoned but I don’t want any company at the same time. It’s so messed up, the life is messed up. But it moves on! I know

Then, I thought to myself to do something about this. If there are things which can turn my mod off, surely there will be things which can make my mood on. I just need to find out what I actually want to do. After all, I can’t run away from reality every time. I guess everyone has their own choices and things which cheer them up every time they feel pissing off, no matter how evil things turned up!

 

So, here’s a list of things I do when I’m upset and feel like running away from everything that exists:

1.     Give time to myself by being me
Sometimes I reach to the level, where I no longer care about what people talk and think about me. I know I can’t do shit about it so I believe better in ignoring. I give myself some time, sit alone by being myself. Do things I love and enjoy my own company and let everyone and everything get down.

2.     Food always cheer me up

Food has the power to change everything wrong happening in my life. And if not, it gives me the power to forget everything for as long as I’m having that food. I order a delicious meal and enjoy it alone. Relish every bite and let my mind wander. It eventually cheers me up every time.

3.     A coffee and a novel always help
This is a kind of therapy, which divert and relax my mind. Yeah, sometimes they even make me cry more because I connect myself with the particular story and characters very much. But at least, it takes me to another world where I no longer in contact with my own problems and issues.

4.     Take a walk and watch the beauty of sunset, ALONE

When I know nothing can make my mind free from the shit going inside my mind, I take a hot shower, wear my favorite dress and take a long walk, ALONE. I always find sunset very mesmerized, the color of the sky turning into different shade of orange, I feel relax. I feel peace. So I take a long walk and appreciate the beautiful view.

5.     Sleep and forget everything for a while
Sometimes, I do need to go in a hibernation mode. Sleep for 12 hours straight. Forget everything and sleep for the whole day. Both my body and mind get relax and I get the much-needed rest. Sleep help me to forget about everything going wrong in my life for a while and feel relax.

6.     Get back in touch with a lost friend
When I probably pissed on everyone and everything in my life, I don’t even want to face them. So I talk to someone who has been out of my life and don’t know what’s wrong going on in my life. Or someone who was once too close but for now we have lost touch. It feels great talking about the good crazy old memories with an old friend.

7.     Imaginary characters always at my rescue
Sometime I desperately want an escape from the world, even if it for a little while. That’s when the fictional world comes to my rescue like a super hero. I watch my favorite movies, or favorite TV series. A comedy or romantic film helps me to get out from my not-so-important grief. I need some time alone with my favorite characters.

8.     Take a looooong shower
It’s not only a great stress buster, it also make my body much clean :p It helps me to feel lighter. Good music, a long shower always make you feel relax. Be in shower for extra long, feel the water droplets on body, embrace myself and my body. The more time I be in shower, the more relax I feel myself.

9.     Give new life to my room
As cliché as it may sound, but it always works. My place always plays a crucial role in my mood swings, so it’s better to clean my room a bit to clear off my mind too. So I take my broom and clean up the fuss (created by me only). I arrange my cupboard, change my bedsheets, line up my shoe rack, delete all those spam emails from my inbox, throw all the useless things I have been piling up. I really feel a thousand kgs lighter, believe me! 

 10.  Look back at my old happy memories
When nothing works, the reminders of good time can really make a change. I go through my old stuff, take out my yearbooks, old albums or scroll really down to the end on my Facebook timeline. I re-read my old status update, look through pictures with friends, without friends. It reminds me how I and my friends used to look, the crazy things we done together, the places I have been. It really cheers me up!

11.   Rihanna and Taylor Swift, always by my side
I can bet that music is the easiest escape from the reality for a lot of people. Personally, my phone is filled up with number of songs but I have special playlist which I play when I everything and everyone makes me feel like murdering someone or attempting suicide. Rihanna, Taylor Swift, Enrique, Atif Aslam, Avril Lavigne are the superheroes who always be my side and rescue me!

I repeat all this things when I feel upset and sad. Though I can’t be upset more than a day and I always find people, place, things to cheer me up at every other point. But this list always on my repeat to make me feel life is still beautiful! It makes me feel relax and motivate me to look forward for something good! After all, I'M ME :)



Monday 9 November 2015

Have You Ever Wondered, What If You May Die? I Fear Oblivion!

 
For last few months, I didn't get enough time for writing. People who like to read my blog, always ask me why I'm not writing something. Even inspired me in every possible way. I really really appreciate that. Though I did miss writing but couldn't find enough time to pursue this hobby. So I thought to write something truly true about myself for a change. What about my fears? I'm on a rollercoaster of life that only goes up, but still I have some fear.
 
Before a few days, I met with an accident. Yeah that was a minor one! Only some scratches on my left elbow and hurt my left shoulder. But that was not the thing that paining. That was a fear. Not the fear of death but the fear of oblivion. I fear oblivion. I fear it like the proverbial blind man who's afraid of the dark. I fear it like a mother whose son is not back home by 2 and she couldn't reach him. I fear it like a small kid alone in a forest. I do believe in that.
 
I never thought about it, and I'm sure no one at very young age do so. We have so much to do with our life that we never find time to think about such stuff. Frankly, before that accident, I never thought about that too. There are other important things to understand like loan policies, interest rate, family, job, cranky boss, clingy boyfriends, traffic rules. And among all these we forget to think and believe in life after death or what will happen if we die.
 
That accident took me to another world, the world of oblivion.
I wondered what if I may die today?
Who will get more affected? Whose life will get stopped because I'll not be there? Will people remember me? Whose gonna miss me more? Though I know life goes on and never stop for anyone but still, will there be someone who will stop?

Now this is quite funny that I took a paper and pen and start making a list of people whose life will get affected if I die. And believe me that was the feeling of homesick, confusion or I would say dharam sankat situation for me.

I know there will come a time when all are dead. Or the people who knows me. There will be no one who remember me. I know there are people who love me, but do they love me enough to get affected their life because of me. The inevitability of human life worries me, that's the reason I chose, and encourage myself to ignore it. And live the life to fullest. But I still want the world to know and remember me. Specially the ones who love me and know the real me. Though there are only a few who really do! I want them to remember the good memories of me and smile, and I will make sure if there is any life after death, whenever I'll be, in any other world I'll be in, I'll smile and find peace.

And with the God's grace in this life, I will make it big not long. And ignore my fear of oblivion because God knows that's what everyone else does!
Do you ever wonder what will happen if you may die?

I FEAR OBLIVION!!

Friday 11 September 2015

Killed by smile, but screwed by love!!


·       It was a fashion show where the fake smile of the show stopper caused lust full looks in the eyes of many. Many a women wanted to enter her dress, a sort of replacing her soul with theirs and owning that sexy body. Many a men just wanted to rip that dress all over the sky because she was totally out of their league. A guy from the crowed smiled with lust full in his eyes and the girl felt fall for him.
·       She was walking down the street, rain were falling on her dress. She crossed the street and her skirt flew a bit high. The street was empty so she thought, could not see the eyes behind the curtains following her smile n gait. The guy followed her smile until she left the street. She saw him smile from another end but couldn’t do anything except of smiling back and made her may away.

I often wonder which guy is genuine, one watching the show stopper on ramp OR the one following from the back of curtains.
Both of them smiled at her.
Both of them caused the goose bumps on her arms.
Both of them made her feel wanted.
Both the smiles simply killed her.
Nothing remained in the garden but for the two roses of smile.

Though one tried to peep in her skirt, whereas another one couldn’t see and think beyond the smile of the girl. Though the first one had lust in her eyes but he made her wanted too. The other one was simply followed her smile to the other end of the road but gave her goosebumps on her arms.

The girl takes the big leap in a relationship just because he smiled and she felt it was for her only. The heart says follow it through by falling in love. But for whom that’s the big question.

All of us, girls in late teen face this heaven like situations so many times that the guy smiled only for me only, our heart also says fall in love because of got killed by someone’s smile. Many a times, this swinging pendulum goes crazy and we see things of being in love to screw up every other thing. We refused to believe that we have our own identity, start lagging in our own ambitions, trying to see colors of rainbow in black moods.

Now the big question is, was there really a need of making choice? Can’t she just ignore the both smiles and made her way to the last cloud of fame. She killed by both smile, but falling in love made her screw. Not only her but her past hard work to become the best, the extra ordinary dreams and the identity for which she was living for.


Love screwed her because of that killing smile!!!

Thursday 3 September 2015

A matter of sorry and thanks!

When I was one year old,                  
She fed me and took care of me.
I cried for the day long.
Neither did I say sorry nor thanks!

When I was two year old,
She taught me how to walk.
I made her run after me for whole day.
Neither did I say sorry nor thanks!

When I was three year old,
She made delicious meal for me.
I didn’t even taste and tossed the plate.
Neither did I say sorry nor thanks!

When I was four year old,
She dressed me up the best she could.
I promptly played in the mud.
Neither did I say sorry nor thanks!

When I was five year old,
She took me to the best school.
I screamed that I don’t want to go.
Neither did I say sorry nor thanks!

When I was six year old,
She sat beside me for the whole night.
I played in rain and got fever.
Neither did I say sorry nor thanks!

When I was seven year old,
She got me the best toy.
I threw it because I didn't like the color.
Neither did I say sorry nor thanks!

When I was nineteen year old,
She suggested me a career.
I said you don’t know anything.
Neither did I say sorry nor thanks!

When I was twenty-two year old,
She asked me to get a job in the same city.
I said I don’t want to be home.
Neither did I say sorry nor thanks!

When I got older,
She was sick and wanted to meet.
I said I’m busy and forgot to meet her.
Neither did I say sorry nor thanks!

Then one day I realized if she may die,
Leaving some memories behind.
All the things I should’ve done for her.
Will surely come to mind!

If there’s something I can do for her,
I thought to do that when she is still here.
I decided to do that now.
So I said sorry and thanks to her now! 

Tuesday 1 September 2015

Looking For An Identity


The world smiles with me,
But I cry alone..
My twinkling eyes are well known,
But my tears never known..
I have love in heart for all,
But my heart is in grief..
My hands full of blessings for all,
But I never has relief..
Breeze is scented of my fragrance,
Though unknown to me is my own significance..
Who am I to whom is known..
A depending daughter or protecting sister,
A lonely wife or caring mother?
A confused soul trapped in the body of a woman,
looking for an identity which is still unknown!!

Friday 21 August 2015

Are We Really Independent??

Being independent in India means buck stops here.
Being an Indian, I always thought about independence. Are we really independent? I mean what independence is exactly? Knowing your rights, right to live freely according to your way, or do what your parents, society, people think you should do. Believing and following the stereo-type rules because society tells us those are right.

Independence is not being a slave. Independence is an era for which our soldiers, our country’s people sacrificed their lives for us. It’s a question on our honesty, on our dignity that in the hour of need, will we suffer ourselves for our country. But now independent became really mean. Independence means different to the different persons.
  • As an individual, we are today slave to the destiny of India. We need to work hard for a better and bright future because people sacrificed their lives for our future. For us how to choose is much more important than what to choose because how bring benefits to many.
      
  • As a female, independence means the real freedom. Freedom to dream, to aim and to chase. Freedom means more than what I want to wear and whom do I want to get marry. Being independent as a female means a right to live the life with our way, feel safe and secure and get respect not for the survival but to win the world.                                     

  • As a farmer in India, being independent means not committing suicide because of falling price of grain or because of crop failure. Independence for them is nothing but earning bread for their family, better education for their children and a roof over their head.
          
  • As a student, independence means getting better and secure environment to study, not being judged by the marks they get and not spoiled by the scheduled caste and categories and get a job that may fulfill all the dreams to make everyone proud (the family and of course the country!) 
          

Every other person has their own criteria to measure their independence. Maybe some want to live their life by their own and some want to sacrifice their life for their country. But the only way to feel independence is to stand up for something which is right, even if it means standing alone.





After all, the best freedom is being yourself! 

Tuesday 11 August 2015

Benefits of having elder sisters


Sisters are the best gift you can get from your family. This sister-sister relationship is special in many ways. Nobody really understands you better than your sisters. After all you share your childhood with them. You find your lifetime friends in your sisters. Someone to shop with, someone to pay your bills, someone to understand and support you, someone to gossip with and share your secrets and of course someone to fight with. If you never fought with sisters, believe me this is a very formal kind of relationship. Having elder sisters is the best thing that can happen in your childhood.

There are benefits and only benefits of having sisters, though they irritate sometimes but they are the ones always there for me!

1.Borrow things and never return
Having elder sisters is the reason of my fully stuffed closet. After all I have the liberty of borrow dresses, jewelries, make-up stuff and never return back.

2.Don’t need to pay for almost every time
This is the reason I love to go for shopping and lunch with my sisters because they never ask me for contribution like my friends and let me pay (except for my b’day party :/)

3.Get experience for the things never tried
There is a lot of stuff that I don’t need to do for getting experience. My sisters always tell me how to handle things and situations in life.

4.All-time advisers
Whether it’s about money or love, choosing between two dresses or for any genuine suggestion. Sisters are always known as all-time advisers.

5.Someone to cover faults and mistakes
Every time I do something foolish and my parents get to know about that, my sisters cover my fault and even get ready to fight with them just to protect me.

6.Helping hand in all household stuff
Being the younger sister, always help me from staying away of household things. She is like my additional hands who work instead of me.


The best part of sister’s relationship is that I always know whatever I do, they are always by my side no matter what. From sharing our dresses and toys, we share a unique bond that grows deeper day by day. We are so close that we finish each other’s sentences, like we can read each other’s minds.

My sisters are a bit of heaven sent down on earth to protect me!






Thursday 6 August 2015

10 Day to day problems every girl faces!!


Being a girl is not easy at all! If you’re a girl, whether you’re living alone or with your family, in a live-in relationship or in a hostel.  There are a dozen of problems you face every day, right from the time you wake up to the time you get back your bed.  From the pain occurred in periods to general life tasks, shopping for matching accessories to taking care of house, even doing stuff for career to mood swing in that time of month. We girls, never leave anything behind! We want it all and we want it right now. But after having all the obstacles in our daily life, we find ways to deal with everything. We even defeat almost everything.

Here are the problems every girl faces and relates to. Wish there was an end to it at all!


1.       Waking up early an hour for getting ready

Where boys wake up, reads newspaper, gets ready, have breakfast and still find some extra time. We girls wake up before an hour or two just for getting ready. And still never get ready on time!

2.       Choosing between clothes to wear is a big fight

We always have a full wardrobe of clothes, but it’s amazing how all good clothes get lost in the closet at the instant moment. Every morning, we have a huge fight for choosing between two or three dresses to wear.

3.       Dealing with the expectation of not having hair anywhere but our heads

Every time I decide to wear a sleevless top or short dress, I need to go for waxing because we need to make sure that the only place we should’ve hair is our head.  Now going for waxing, hair removal cream and shaving is a difficult choice that irritates a lot.

4.       Ahhh, this kajal needs to stay put throughout the day

We always need a kajal that stays 24*7. If not, then at least for the time we are out of our home. We all love summers, but summer is also hell for a thousand reasons. Specially, for the girls who wear a lot of makeup with dark kajal. Smudge kajal causes real pain.

5.       Looking for a bench/chair in every five minute

Where wearing high heels make you look like an adult chic, it can also causes pain for you. Sometimes when you walk in high heels, it looks like you’re drunk. Or you look for any bench or chair to sit every time. Wearing heels is not sexy if you walk like a new born calf.

6.       Painting nails is a never ending process

It takes a lot of time for growing, making the perfect shape and painting them but in just a fraction of seconds, you get a cut on the corner side of your nail and then again, wait for a month or two for growing it.

7.       Stomach cramping can cancel all the plans

Before making a plan we need to make sure this would not be that time of month. From periodically occurring blood-leak to swing in the mood, avoiding short white dress to the cramps in the stomach, these things have the power to cancel any plan.

8.       Pregnancy can give a heart-attack!

We can still manage if we forget the date of our monthly cycle, but missing the whole cycle can definitely give us a heart-attack. Noting can be more scaring than missing your periods. After all, it’s better late than pregnancy.

9.       Finding matching accessories and stuff

Finding matching accessories sound easy but roaming around in every shop to find the perfect one is a big task. Even if we go out for finding a single matching stuff, we end up buying 10 more new things. It happens every time!

10.   Sitting in the posture we want is horrible

Nothing can be done about the sweat or the rash that might be bothering you down there. Especially if you’re wearing a short dress, you can’t even think of sitting comfortably like you want. For boys it is a big advantage.

11.   Ogling men can make embarrass

Every time you wear something sexy, you can easily find guys who are latching onto you. Whether in parties or malls, they just try to get a glimpse of your cleavage or toned pair of legs. We girls deal with these ogling men every other day. 


Never mind how many obstacles are in our way, we girls, find ways to deal and defeat everything!

Tuesday 21 July 2015

That reflection which transformed me from a girl to a lady!




We all grew up playing with our mother’s dupattas and sari when she was not around, trying to drape that around us, parading in front of mirror and fantasizing about the time when we will grow up enough to wear them for real. I still remember when my grandmother used to help me for draping the sari around my waist, called me a bride and then I used to blush! Though this was all for her personal amusement but I enjoyed each and every moment and always thought about the day when I will be mature enough to wear a sari by my own.

There must be rare an Indian girl who doesn’t remember the first time she wore a sari or indeed, the first sari she ever wore. That is quite a sense of occasion for a girl. But that was just the playtime. Wearing a sari out in the public is really a serious stuff. And especially with heels! Choosing between cotton and chiffon, plain or printed, traditional or indo-western, nothing is less than a ‘dharam-sankat’ for girls. Altogether the decision about the right color is a big deal. But once it is on you, you can’t describe the feeling in words.

The first time I wore a sari for a wedding, the wedding became more than that. It became an occasion which I want to embrace every bit of it. I can’t quite explain the thrill I felt when it was finally on me. Looking myself in mirror, giving the final touch, it seems perfect on me. I never thought it will look that much good. I realized that, I never felt so beautiful, or even elegant in my entire life. As a teen, I was looking like a grown up. I stood straighter and gazed at myself in the mirror, as it was some unknown stranger but beautiful. That one reflection, transformed me from a girl to a lady.

My story is not unique. Ask any Indian girl, she will have the similar experience. It can either be a family function or wedding in the neighbourhood, a school farewell or a religious festival. Even the process itself is marked by a big sense of occasion. Everyone has different opinion about the sari, the kind of blouse and even about the pallu (ulta or seedha). Elder sisters or mothers fuss around until the sari is finally draped around your waist. The grandmothers in the background get a bit teary after seeing you in the attire. And more and more selfies are need to be taken, of course to mark the ocassion ;p

But nowadays, every girl prefers to wear western, jeans and shirts, skirts and salwar-kameez, short dresses or suits. We remarked sari to the category of ‘special occasion wear’. We fold it nicely and closed in a cupboard that only opens up twice in a year hardly. It’s actually not wrong because we find western attire a bit comfortable for our daily routines. But you must find some time to open up that cupboard, find a perfect sari for normal routine sometime. And I guarantee it will feel like heaven. In metros, malls where everyone is wearing only western, it will feel different, beautiful. After all sari is the most elegant, though sexiest attire. It does truly justice with the curves too ;p

P.S : Sari covers the right amount and exposes the right amount!

Sunday 19 July 2015

FEMINISM IS NOT HATING MEN


How can I hate a man while I’m a daughter, a sister, even a girlfriend! I will be a wife, and moreover a mother of a son! I am extremely happy to have got a chance to clear this very widespread, but incorrect misconception about feminism that feminism has something to do with hating men. Feminism is nothing to do with hating men. It’s an extremely false stigma attached to feminism.
Ø Feminism basically is a range of movement and ideologies which share a common goal-The goal to bring about equality in rights of women in economic, cultural, personal and social aspects.
Ø It just demands equal platform for women to stand along with men.
Ø  A large number of people are being misinformed that one cannot be a feminist if she loves men. It’s indeed a surprising thing for me.
Ø One of the other most important thing is feminism is not gender specific. You don’t really require a vagina to be a feminist. Many men have well accepted this concept which includes famous male celebrities like Ashton Kutcher, Harry Styles and many more.
Ø This misunderstanding has entered the society due to some feminist who hate men also known as misandrist. But misandry has nothing to do with feminism.
Ø Feminism is not a movement against men, it’s not about lowering men to raise women up, but it’s a movement to dismantle the prevailing patriarchy in the society.
Ø Feminism talks about our incorrect stereotyped assumption of some inherent qualities of men and women like women are the only people who can be emotional, cook and take care of the child and only men being biologically very strong can lift heavy weights and fight.
Ø Feminism protests against such inextricable linking of qualities to men and women just because these were some roles given to them years ago.
Ø Feminism basically is an amazing concept as it gives men, the right to cry and women, to be the breadwinner for her family.



I am very sure all of you knowing about it would like to support me and other women in establishing a firm foundation of this concept in the minds of the people which is extremely necessary for the well-being of the society.

Tuesday 14 July 2015

6 Things Every Girl Want In Their Body


          We girls just love our body, very conscious about it. We always want to look prettier every day, doesn’t matter we are going to college or on our first date. There are few things which are heaven for us, but few things which pain like hell. The list below is the things we want in our body.

1.     Curves are dangerous
Curves are really dangerous. Every girl wants a perfect figure with perfect curves. Every time we stand in the front of mirror, we notice our curves. Whether we are wearing a short dress, or suit-salwar, even in sari curves are must. And moreover, guys skip a beat for curvy girls.


2.     Eyes are dreamy
Every girl wants sharp features, specially the big freaking eyes. Eyes must be dreamy with so many extra ordinary dreams, love, passion in them. We try hard to make our eyes look more beautiful by applying eye makeup but seriously it’s a dream to have dreamy eyes.


3.     Dimples are desire
Smile is the best makeup any girl can wear but dimples are a desire. The smile can begin with eyes, then touch the lips, and finally end with cute dimples. But only a few are blessed who can flash a dimpled smile and sway the one who are looking at their feet.


4.     Pimples can be heaven
Pimples are worth dyeing, but it can be heaven if the pimples are not on your face. But on other girl’s face. And if the girl is the one, on whom your boyfriend had crush, or her ex-girlfriend, that is more than enough. A single pimple on face can take your whole night’s sleep away.


5.     Nails to be painted
Girls love their nails done with manicure, perfect shape and a favorite nail color. Nails must be painted. But only a girl can understand how difficult it is to choose between two colors. Long painted nails become a style, a fashion now. Long painted nails are a way of saying, look I’m a princess!


6.     Legs must be sleek
With perfect curves, sexier butts, flatter stomach, leaner and sleeker legs are must. Whether you wear full length germ suits always or minis, we girls just need sleek legs. It’s not about we have to expose our sleek legs and seduce guys, but yeah if this is happening too, we are on the cloud 9.



These are the few things we girl can die for! 

Thursday 9 July 2015

5 things to know by every new girl in the city!

   

Though living alone is the best experience for any girl. But when it comes to leaving behind your parents, friends, town and moving to a totally new place, it brings thousands of changes mentally and emotionally. Leaving your home, travelling alone, shifting to a new place, makes you strong but these things make you alone also! With your stuff and baggage you carry a big bag of dreams, dreams to do something big, to prove your strength, to make your family and friend proud of you. From finding yourself a suitable job to a perfect flat of your own, enjoying every bit of your freedom to the lonely night sleep, everything comes altogether.
So if you ever moved somewhere alone or thinking to do so, you must need to know these things to stay aware and adapt the place asap:

 1. Research beforehand shifting
Shifting to a new place without knowing it can create trouble. First goggle your new place, nearby market, parlor, police station, malls, way to office or college. Get in touch with the old friends and known ones already living there. You must need to get familiar with your destination.

  2. Know your dreams
If you’re moving to a new city, you definitely need to know the reason behind your shifting. Whether it is about study or working in Bollywood industry, job in top MNC or starting your own business. This is very important to remember the dream which let you move to this place.

  3. Choose your friends wisely
Obviously you are missing badly your friends and family and you need a good company to move on. But don’t make any friend just for the sake of not being alone. You don’t need to keep yourself isolated but choose your friends wisely. Go on.. Have new friends in your neighbor, office and in the whole town. But remember precautions are better than cure.

  4. Explore new places and things
Now you’re in this city so you need to make it yours. So go out to new places, hang around with new people, explore the new exciting things out there. This will help you to mix up fast with the new place. The soon you get to know about a place, the soon you get familiar.

  5.  Embrace your freedom
As you were at home, you always used to think about this time, living alone, the freedom to make choices by your own. So now that you get it, you need to do all the crazy stuff who thought you will do. The joy and happiness of independence and the freedom to live your choices will certainly make you fall in love with your life. You will enjoy every bit of your freedom.

Life changes with time, people comes and leave, places you left, but we need to learn to accept the changes. It is not easy to leave your place and settle down elsewhere but it brings your bag full of opportunity and challenges to make your life lively and adventurous.






Monday 29 June 2015

7 Reasons I Never Fight With My Bestie ;p


  
No matter how many friends I have on my Facebook list, no matter with how many people I chill out. But no one can take my best friend’s place in my heart. No matter how much we fight or after how many days we meet, but I know she will be always there for me as a “Support System”. She always remains irreplaceable because she is the one who knows me, more than I know myself! I always have the Best time when we’re together, we laugh, we cry, we dance, we gossip, we party, and even we fight but there are some reasons I never have the guts for real Cold-War with her:

1.      Knows all my Secrets
Fighting for long with her is like dancing in front of a snake, in short inviting trouble because she knows all my secrets (including dirty ones ;p) She knows all my past-life scandals and the list of guys I dumped. Whether it’s about my secret wish list or my secret crush, my crazy fantasies or my fears, nothing remained out of her sight. From my smoking drinking bad habits to my clingy ex-boyfriends, she knows all!


2.     Unconditional Support  
Whether I fight with my family or boyfriend, I always know whom to call to get back my senses. The times I get upset, she exactly knows how to make me feel better. I even call her at 2 am, not to talk but to sob as long as I want. And she patiently listen everything, which I never say. She supports me in everything, right or wrong, never matters. Who else can do that for me?!


3.      True Soul-mate
She is like my shadow, my true soul-mate. No one can ever be able to understand me the way she does. She knows exactly what happening in my life. She can understand my thoughts and actions better than me, like they’re her own. She knows why I do the things I do, she knows every time why I feel the way I feel. I don’t need to say aloud that I’m upset or happy. She knows me like a part of her!

4.     Partner in Crime
All the crazy stuff I think to do, she is the morale supporter, who never asks why I want to do this shit but support me and even guide me how to mess the things, literally. I just need to tell her and she is already the partner in all my crimes. Whether it’s about money for boozing or lie to mom for new-year’s late night party, or even puking together in the sink after drinking heavily. She is always right beside me!

5.     Seen me in my worst
There is no room for awkwardness between us because she has seen me in my worst. She has seen Everything, right from my colorful-streaks-face to crying-for-my-ex boyfriend-face, she has been the one and only witness. She didn’t even see everything but always support me to get better than before. She was right there when I needed a shoulder to cry, to wipe my tears and to support me, all the way she could have!

6.     Ridiculously Loyal
Of course she is my best friend, but she is ridiculously loyal towards me. She always argues when it comes to my safety and protection. My best friend won’t let anyone hurt me ever or let anything bad happen to me ever. As if it is in her hands! No one else can give me a better and honest opinion about what’s looking good or what’s looking bad on me. She even tells me that she doesn’t like the guy I’m dating. Phewww.. Too Loyal!!


7.     Enjoyment, all the way
When it comes to enjoyment, we’ve the best time when we’re together. We always try to enjoy every second of our life. Shopping, trying dresses in the same trying-room, watching movies, burning the dance floor, checking out guys, complimenting each other, comparing our weight on weighing machine, doing crazy stuff together, these are just a sort of. We can try and do everything to get the kick called ‘Enjoyment’

Having a lot of friends at the different stage of life is not the big deal, but having a same friend at every stage is! Friendship is the only relation we find by ourselves, so it’s better to find only one friend rather of many, who stand by us forever in everything. The friend who can be by your side when the world is against you. She is my best friend that’s why she always remains irreplaceable. For heaven’s sake, I can never ever think to fight with my bestie, because she is as special for me as I’m for her!