Building Confidence
Confidence is not something that is learned by a set of rules.
Every other person has his own fears, drawbacks and points because of which,
lack of confidence is natural. That is just a state of mind- a positive one.
The ones with self confident are always admired by others and inspired others.
They are tend to be risk takers and face their fears head on. The people with
self confidence always see their life with a positive perspective. It's not
about how many problems and challenges they are facing in their life, they
always fight and never give up. Confidence comes from the feelings of
well-being, acceptance of body and mind, way of living, belief in own
capabilities, skills, experiences.
"Low self-confidence isn't a life
sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered--just like
any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for
the better." --Barrie Davenport
Low-confidence can be a result of many factors. Lack of
confidence is a result of lack of confidence including fear, criticism,feeling
unprepared, lack of knowledge and previous failures etc. But if one really want
to get over low confidence there are many ways to improve.
1. Positive thought
Positive thought can be a powerful way to boosting your
confidence level. Positivity depends on your mind only. You have to stay away
from negativity and bring positivity in yourself. You just need to think
positive and the basic rules for thinking positive are to highlight your
strengths and capabilities and learn from your own mistakes and failures. The
negative thoughts can be very damaging to kill your confidence but be positive.
Put some positive enthusiasm into your interactions with others. Stop focussing
on the problems and failures of your life, instead begin to focus on finding
solutions and positive changes.
2. Good posture &
body language
Although clothes don't make the man, but certainly affect the
way he feels about himself. The right posture, smiling, eye contact, come into
the play too. Just the single act of pulling your shoulders back and a smiling
face, gives others an impression that you are a confident person. The smiling
face of yours makes others feel comfortable around you. Sit straight and calm,
look direct into the eyes of the person you are speaking to, shows confidence.
Stay calm and and speak slowly will always help you. Feel more self-confidence
in yourself and appear self confident to others.
3. Experience and Failure
Never give up and accept failure. Keep practice and things will
surely turn on. Low-confidence is often caused by the failures of life and lack
of experience. When we successfully complete some tasks and goals, our
confidence naturally boosts up. It increases the confidence of doing something
better than the previous time because of experience. The more you practise, the
more you get more confident. Taking the first step can, however, be very
difficult. But for gaining experience and build your confidence, one have to
take that first step confidently.
4. Be prepared and assertive
If you are prepared, and have the knowledge to back it up, your
self-confidence will soar. Learning and gaining knowledge can sometimes
make us feel less confident about our abilities to perform roles and tasks,
when this happens we need to combine our knowledge with experience. Prepare
yourself by gaining all the knowledge about the topic or job or presentation
you are doing. This will boost your confidence. Being assertive means
standing up for what you believe in and sticking to your principles. Being
assertive also means that you can change your mind if you believe it is the
right thing to do, not because you are under pressure from somebody else.
5. Focus on contribution
Too often we get caught up in our own desires. We focus too much
on ourselves and not enough on the needs of other people. If you stop thinking
about yourself and concentrate on the contribution you’re making to the rest of
the world, you won’t worry as much about you own flaws. This will increase self
confidence and allow you to contribute with maximum efficiency. The more you
contribute to the world the more you’ll be rewarded with personal success and
recognition.
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