Confidence is not something that is learned by a set of rules. Every other person has his own fears, drawbacks and points because of which, lack of confidence is natural. That is just a state of mind- a positive one. The ones with self confident are always admired by others and inspired others. They are tend to be risk takers and face their fears head on. The people with self confidence always see their life with a positive perspective. It's not about how many problems and challenges they are facing in their life, they always fight and never give up. Confidence comes from the feelings of well-being, acceptance of body and mind, way of living, belief in own capabilities, skills, experiences.
"Low self-confidence isn't a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered--just like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better." --Barrie Davenport
Low-confidence can be a result of many factors. Lack of confidence is a result of lack of confidence including fear, criticism,feeling unprepared, lack of knowledge and previous failures etc. But if one really want to get over low confidence there are many ways to improve.
1. Positive thought
Positive thought can be a powerful way to boosting your confidence level. Positivity depends on your mind only. You have to stay away from negativity and bring positivity in yourself. You just need to think positive and the basic rules for thinking positive are to highlight your strengths and capabilities and learn from your own mistakes and failures. The negative thoughts can be very damaging to kill your confidence but be positive. Put some positive enthusiasm into your interactions with others. Stop focussing on the problems and failures of your life, instead begin to focus on finding solutions and positive changes.
2. Good posture & body language
Although clothes don't make the man, but certainly affect the way he feels about himself. The right posture, smiling, eye contact, come into the play too. Just the single act of pulling your shoulders back and a smiling face, gives others an impression that you are a confident person. The smiling face of yours makes others feel comfortable around you. Sit straight and calm, look direct into the eyes of the person you are speaking to, shows confidence. Stay calm and and speak slowly will always help you. Feel more self-confidence in yourself and appear self confident to others.
3. Experience and Failure
Never give up and accept failure. Keep practice and things will surely turn on. Low-confidence is often caused by the failures of life and lack of experience. When we successfully complete some tasks and goals, our confidence naturally boosts up. It increases the confidence of doing something better than the previous time because of experience. The more you practise, the more you get more confident. Taking the first step can, however, be very difficult. But for gaining experience and build your confidence, one have to take that first step confidently.
4. Be prepared and assertive
If you are prepared, and have the knowledge to back it up, your self-confidence will soar. Learning and gaining knowledge can sometimes make us feel less confident about our abilities to perform roles and tasks, when this happens we need to combine our knowledge with experience. Prepare yourself by gaining all the knowledge about the topic or job or presentation you are doing. This will boost your confidence. Being assertive means standing up for what you believe in and sticking to your principles. Being assertive also means that you can change your mind if you believe it is the right thing to do, not because you are under pressure from somebody else.
5. Focus on contribution
Too often we get caught up in our own desires. We focus too much on ourselves and not enough on the needs of other people. If you stop thinking about yourself and concentrate on the contribution you’re making to the rest of the world, you won’t worry as much about you own flaws. This will increase self confidence and allow you to contribute with maximum efficiency. The more you contribute to the world the more you’ll be rewarded with personal success and recognition.