That reflection which transformed me from a girl to a lady!

We all grew up playing with our mother’s dupattas and sari when she was not around, trying to drape that around us, parading in front of mirror and fantasizing about the time when we will grow up enough to wear them for real. I still remember when my grandmother used to help me for draping the sari around my waist, called me a bride and then I used to blush! Though this was all for her personal amusement but I enjoyed each and every moment and always thought about the day when I will be mature enough to wear a sari by my own.

There must be rare an Indian girl who doesn’t remember the first time she wore a sari or indeed, the first sari she ever wore. That is quite a sense of occasion for a girl. But that was just the playtime. Wearing a sari out in the public is really a serious stuff. And especially with heels! Choosing between cotton and chiffon, plain or printed, traditional or indo-western, nothing is less than a ‘dharam-sankat’ for girls. Altogether the decision about the right color is a big deal. But once it is on you, you can’t describe the feeling in words.

The first time I wore a sari for a wedding, the wedding became more than that. It became an occasion which I want to embrace every bit of it. I can’t quite explain the thrill I felt when it was finally on me. Looking myself in mirror, giving the final touch, it seems perfect on me. I never thought it will look that much good. I realized that, I never felt so beautiful, or even elegant in my entire life. As a teen, I was looking like a grown up. I stood straighter and gazed at myself in the mirror, as it was some unknown stranger but beautiful. That one reflection, transformed me from a girl to a lady.

My story is not unique. Ask any Indian girl, she will have the similar experience. It can either be a family function or wedding in the neighbourhood, a school farewell or a religious festival. Even the process itself is marked by a big sense of occasion. Everyone has different opinion about the sari, the kind of blouse and even about the pallu (ulta or seedha). Elder sisters or mothers fuss around until the sari is finally draped around your waist. The grandmothers in the background get a bit teary after seeing you in the attire. And more and more selfies are need to be taken, of course to mark the ocassion ;p

But nowadays, every girl prefers to wear western, jeans and shirts, skirts and salwar-kameez, short dresses or suits. We remarked sari to the category of ‘special occasion wear’. We fold it nicely and closed in a cupboard that only opens up twice in a year hardly. It’s actually not wrong because we find western attire a bit comfortable for our daily routines. But you must find some time to open up that cupboard, find a perfect sari for normal routine sometime. And I guarantee it will feel like heaven. In metros, malls where everyone is wearing only western, it will feel different, beautiful. After all sari is the most elegant, though sexiest attire. It does truly justice with the curves too ;p

P.S : Sari covers the right amount and exposes the right amount!

FEMINISM IS NOT HATING MEN

How can I hate a man while I’m a daughter, a sister, even a girlfriend! I will be a wife, and moreover a mother of a son! I am extremely happy to have got a chance to clear this very widespread, but incorrect misconception about feminism that feminism has something to do with hating men. Feminism is nothing to do with hating men. It’s an extremely false stigma attached to feminism.

Ø Feminism basically is a range of movement and ideologies which share a common goal-The goal to bring about equality in rights of women in economic, cultural, personal and social aspects.

Ø It just demands equal platform for women to stand along with men.

Ø  A large number of people are being misinformed that one cannot be a feminist if she loves men. It’s indeed a surprising thing for me.

Ø One of the other most important thing is feminism is not gender specific. You don’t really require a vagina to be a feminist. Many men have well accepted this concept which includes famous male celebrities like Ashton Kutcher, Harry Styles and many more.

Ø This misunderstanding has entered the society due to some feminist who hate men also known as misandrist. But misandry has nothing to do with feminism.

Ø Feminism is not a movement against men, it’s not about lowering men to raise women up, but it’s a movement to dismantle the prevailing patriarchy in the society.

Ø Feminism talks about our incorrect stereotyped assumption of some inherent qualities of men and women like women are the only people who can be emotional, cook and take care of the child and only men being biologically very strong can lift heavy weights and fight.

Ø Feminism protests against such inextricable linking of qualities to men and women just because these were some roles given to them years ago.

Ø Feminism basically is an amazing concept as it gives men, the right to cry and women, to be the breadwinner for her family.

I am very sure all of you knowing about it would like to support me and other women in establishing a firm foundation of this concept in the minds of the people which is extremely necessary for the well-being of the society.

6 Things Every Girl Want In Their Body

          We girls just love our body, very conscious about it. We always want to look prettier every day, doesn’t matter we are going to college or on our first date. There are few things which are heaven for us, but few things which pain like hell. The list below is the things we want in our body.

1.     Curves are dangerous

Curves are really dangerous. Every girl wants a perfect figure with perfect curves. Every time we stand in the front of mirror, we notice our curves. Whether we are wearing a short dress, or suit-salwar, even in sari curves are must. And moreover, guys skip a beat for curvy girls.

2.     Eyes are dreamy

Every girl wants sharp features, specially the big freaking eyes. Eyes must be dreamy with so many extra ordinary dreams, love, passion in them. We try hard to make our eyes look more beautiful by applying eye makeup but seriously it’s a dream to have dreamy eyes.

3.     Dimples are desire

Smile is the best makeup any girl can wear but dimples are a desire. The smile can begin with eyes, then touch the lips, and finally end with cute dimples. But only a few are blessed who can flash a dimpled smile and sway the one who are looking at their feet.

4.     Pimples can be heaven

Pimples are worth dyeing, but it can be heaven if the pimples are not on your face. But on other girl’s face. And if the girl is the one, on whom your boyfriend had crush, or her ex-girlfriend, that is more than enough. A single pimple on face can take your whole night’s sleep away.

5.     Nails to be painted

Girls love their nails done with manicure, perfect shape and a favorite nail color. Nails must be painted. But only a girl can understand how difficult it is to choose between two colors. Long painted nails become a style, a fashion now. Long painted nails are a way of saying, look I’m a princess!

6.     Legs must be sleek

With perfect curves, sexier butts, flatter stomach, leaner and sleeker legs are must. Whether you wear full length germ suits always or minis, we girls just need sleek legs. It’s not about we have to expose our sleek legs and seduce guys, but yeah if this is happening too, we are on the cloud 9.

These are the few things we girl can die for! 

5 things to know by every new girl in the city!

   

Though living alone is the best experience for any girl. But when it comes to leaving behind your parents, friends, town and moving to a totally new place, it brings thousands of changes mentally and emotionally. Leaving your home, travelling alone, shifting to a new place, makes you strong but these things make you alone also! With your stuff and baggage you carry a big bag of dreams, dreams to do something big, to prove your strength, to make your family and friend proud of you. From finding yourself a suitable job to a perfect flat of your own, enjoying every bit of your freedom to the lonely night sleep, everything comes altogether.
So if you ever moved somewhere alone or thinking to do so, you must need to know these things to stay aware and adapt the place asap:

 1. Research beforehand shifting
Shifting to a new place without knowing it can create trouble. First goggle your new place, nearby market, parlor, police station, malls, way to office or college. Get in touch with the old friends and known ones already living there. You must need to get familiar with your destination.

  2. Know your dreams
If you’re moving to a new city, you definitely need to know the reason behind your shifting. Whether it is about study or working in Bollywood industry, job in top MNC or starting your own business. This is very important to remember the dream which let you move to this place.

  3. Choose your friends wisely
Obviously you are missing badly your friends and family and you need a good company to move on. But don’t make any friend just for the sake of not being alone. You don’t need to keep yourself isolated but choose your friends wisely. Go on.. Have new friends in your neighbor, office and in the whole town. But remember precautions are better than cure.

  4. Explore new places and things
Now you’re in this city so you need to make it yours. So go out to new places, hang around with new people, explore the new exciting things out there. This will help you to mix up fast with the new place. The soon you get to know about a place, the soon you get familiar.

  5.  Embrace your freedom
As you were at home, you always used to think about this time, living alone, the freedom to make choices by your own. So now that you get it, you need to do all the crazy stuff who thought you will do. The joy and happiness of independence and the freedom to live your choices will certainly make you fall in love with your life. You will enjoy every bit of your freedom.

Life changes with time, people comes and leave, places you left, but we need to learn to accept the changes. It is not easy to leave your place and settle down elsewhere but it brings your bag full of opportunity and challenges to make your life lively and adventurous.